Allah Does Not Burden what His Slaves can not Bear With

Taken from https://contentmuslimah.tumblr.com/post/185524444567/my-husband-said-something-to-me-today-that-really

My husband said something to me today that really got me thinking. Noticing i’ve been down the past few days, he reminded me that everything will be okay. He said that Allah will not burden us beyond what we can bear, and that is something we are constantly told. What he went on to say was if we cannot bear it, then there is something wrong in us. A deficieny of some sort. I’ve never really thought of it like that before. At times you will go through trials that really do seem unbearable, these trials will sometimes put a hold on your life. You get stuck in a rut and it is as though nothing is improving. You feel trapped, and although these tests upon first impact can be a hurdle to get over, it is still very possible. However, when it extends for much longer than what is bearable, when it begins to impact your sanity, you start to wonder if this test is here to build you up or to completely tear you down. 

What he said to me really changed my perspective. I am able to make even the smallest of things unbearable, if i refuse to move on, if i refuse to adapt and shape my life around it, or if i refuse to face the obstacles that come with this hardship. What could easily come and go if i could come to terms with it, could also remain with me and eat up at me for the longest time if i refuse to challenge it, or to challenge myself. What he said made me realize that because i was not willing to accept certain changes in my life, i was stalling and in turn experiencing this relentless torture. 

I don’t know if this will help anyone, but if you’re experiencing something similar, something that just won’t leave you.. maybe reflect on yourself and how you’re handling the situation. It could be that the door for relief was wide open for you all along, but you haven’t bothered to take the steps that will lead you out of this mess, whether it is out of fear, anxiety, a lack of motivation, ect. Life is a series of hurdles and events that we must either cross or adapt to, otherwise we will never grow, our struggles will never leave us and everything will only continue to pile up. Our time and what is written for us will not stop for the sake of our comfort. You just have to catch up with yourself.